So, if you’re like some MILS, you may not immediately recognize many commonalities with your DIL. Or vice versa. As one person commented, at first the only thing they had in common was her son! And that may have seemed the case at the time.
But, was it really? Or did they share numerous likes, dislikes, personality traits, talents, passions, etc. and not yet know it? Isn’t developing any relationship an exercise in finding out what the other person is like? What makes them tick? What moves them, motivates them, inspires them, entertains them, makes them laugh and cry?
“….. the things we have in common far outnumber and outweigh those that divide us.” – Walt Disney
Can’t convince me that a man is the only thing two women who love him have in common. Sounds like one of my opportunities is to want to find those common threads that connect us. And to do that, I’ve got to care enough about my son and DIL to invest my time and energy – two of the most important resources I have.