Dear Abby Column in Today’s Paper

Dear Abby: Dear Abby

I am no advice columnist, but may I offer a few wise words to future brides?

I have been married for 25 years and have never had an argument with my mother-in-law.  Never!  My mother gave me some valuable advice before my wedding that I’d like to pass along.  She said, “Always respect the woman who made the man you love.”

I never forgot it, and my MIL has always been welcome in my home for as long as she wishes.  If we had any differences, a respectful dialogue was opened right away — especially if it concerned our kids’ education.

We have enjoyed shopping, eating, cooking, parties, caring for newborns and family moments together for as long as I can remember. Sadly, she is now frail and can no longer travel as much as she once could.

The women who made our husbands deserve all the respect we can offer them because if we are happy as wives, it is thanks to all of them.

— Simone In San Francisco

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2 thoughts on “Dear Abby Column in Today’s Paper

  1. Hi Simone,
    Its really nice to hear about your relatonship with your MIL. But I have few questions for you,.
    What if your MIL dont like you? What if she tells you “I would want to control you in this house because I’ve lived like a queen and will never take any other women’s say in my house? What if she keeps talking dirty about your own parents? What if she is expecting too much out of you? What if she keeps taunting her own son by saying things which puts him in Anxiety or Panic mode especially when he is working in office(Though MIL knows her son is suffereing from Panic disorder?
    Please tell me how will you handle these things?
    Its been 3 years we are married and still solving these problems.

    Regards
    Sim

    • My advice to married couples is usually this: Ride it out and pray it through! Hang in there and don’t forget that God is the author and designer of this covenantal relationship. HE always has the best advice!

      That being said, here are some of my thoughts: Whether you admire, appreciate, agree with or enjoy times with your MIL/DIL, respect is one thing you can always afford . To be polite, pleasant and considerate to people is not something they need to earn from us. It is naturally due them. It doesn’t mean we necessarily like someone when we treat them with respect. At the same time, we don’t have to spend lots of time with or talk often with people who treat us with disrespect, rudeness or even hostility. We do, however, always have the opportunity to choose how we will treat others, in spite of how we are being treated. That says a lot about who we really are. And it often has transformational power over those around us!

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