I am no advice columnist, but may I offer a few wise words to future brides?
I have been married for 25 years and have never had an argument with my mother-in-law. Never! My mother gave me some valuable advice before my wedding that I’d like to pass along. She said, “Always respect the woman who made the man you love.”
I never forgot it, and my MIL has always been welcome in my home for as long as she wishes. If we had any differences, a respectful dialogue was opened right away — especially if it concerned our kids’ education.
We have enjoyed shopping, eating, cooking, parties, caring for newborns and family moments together for as long as I can remember. Sadly, she is now frail and can no longer travel as much as she once could.
The women who made our husbands deserve all the respect we can offer them because if we are happy as wives, it is thanks to all of them.
Excerpt from “How to Make Your Mother-in-Law Love You Forever” — by SHARON BEXLEY, femail.co.uk
A blessing in disguise
Denise says it’s worth reminding yourself that your mother-in-law can be a blessing, and it really is worth putting in some work to improve your relationship. ‘Mothers-in-law can be a real source of support. Daughters-in-law need to recognize that and not automatically assume things will be difficult, which often may alienate the mother in law unnecessarily.
‘If you start off with a bad relationship, and let her get away with making you feel inadequate, the less likely things are to change. The more confident you are about your position in her son’s life, the easier you’ll get on.
‘If you let things lie, and never tackle her, it will cause problems not just between you and her, but also between you and her son.’